Hey Hey Hey!! In this blog post, I've put together FIVE tips that I believe every godly, faithful college girl needs to know! LET'S GET STARTED!
Whether you’re currently in college or just graduated high school, these tips were made in order to help you set a firm foundation in your faith & point out the main area’s college girls usually struggle with. Along with tips, you will get encouraging bible verses that go along with each area of struggle!!
Know what you believe & why
Starting my freshman year at college, if I would’ve been asked “How strong is your faith?” my answer would have been “Super Strong, sturdy, unshakable”. Little did I know the challenges ahead of me. You may be there too, just coming out of high school ready to take on the WORLD. The world however, isn’t very welcoming. Many moments throughout my first semester of college I struggled with my faith and who I was and truly who my God was. There were many nights sitting in my dorm room, I threw my hands up helplessly crying out asking “God, where are you?!” My faith wasn’t as strong as I thought.
God hadn’t moved, I had.
It’s easier than you think to get mixed in with what everyone else is doing and miss what God is doing. If you’re currently in college maybe you can relate to the battle of holding onto your faith especially in that first semester.
The foundation of what you believe shouldn’t come from your parents, your friends, or your pastor. You need to personally DIG into your bible, pray it out, and write about it. It is YOUR faith that has to be founded in Christ, no one can do this for you. I personally grew up in church, went to bible school, church camps etc. but until personally digging into God’s word I hadn’t read it all for myself. I couldn’t fully grasp the power of scripture, until I began to break apart the verses. After the process of breaking down scripture and knowing the promises of God I began to put together my WHY. Answering all the Why questions of my faith began to build me a platform that didn’t only help me grown spiritually but is continuously helping me tell others about who my God is! God’s word is our best weapon against evil in our lives. It is our most useful tool in overcoming the heavy weight this world seems to bare.
Hebrews 4:12 For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.
Scripture reminds us the value of holding God's word close to our hearts. Knowing his word & believing in it will lead to living it out daily.
Proverbs 7:2-3 Keep my commands and you will live; guard my teachings as the apple of your eye. Bind them on your fingers; write them on the tablet of your heart.
Find your People
My best decision in college was to begin attending a women’s bible study held at a sweet local lady’s house in my college’s town. Honestly, I didn’t know how this was going to go. In those few weeks of fellowship, studying and learning about Jesus not only did I find friends, I found sisters. This sisterhood would be a foundation of fellowship that would help me along some of the hardest seasons of my life. Before this group, I wasn’t super involved on campus and didn’t really know how in the world I was going to find friends that were anything like me. These girls are one solid reason I have been able to grow so much in Christ. They have encouraged me and helped me through some of the hardest times of my life.
However, there have been many moments where I have struggled with finding friendship’s that are solid, and have a Godly foundation. And honestly, those are VERY hard to come by. So I encourage you, instead of chasing after people who you want to be friends with or groups that you’re “dying” to be a part of, chase after God instead. He ultimately knows you the best, and will put people into your life that will lift you up.
If you find yourself in friendships that pressure you to be a certain way, & seem to be pulling you away from God, that's not the kind of friendship to put faith in. True, genuine friendship isn’t going to want to change you, it will love you where you are, accept who you are & will encourage you to be BETTER.
Proverbs 18:24 NIV A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Pray for it, Be that friend, & Have Faith God's timing is perfect.
Proverbs 13:20 NIV He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harms.
Purpose > Popularity
Raise your hand if you’ve ever done something just to fit in… (currently raising both hands). Maybe you’ve been there too. In college, it’s soooo easy to do whatever it takes to blend in and fit in, but as women of Jesus we KNOW that’s not our calling. Instagram in generally can make you're college experience seem like a competition. Whose doing what, where are they doing it & how pretty do they look while doing (insert college activity here). Life isn't a popularity contest, its a battle to win over SOULS for JESUS. Sweet & Simple, right. I know, I know it is much easier said than done. But I want to encourage you girl, right where you are, right now BE DIFFERENT. Embrace you're awkward, love how God created you. We are called to be SET APART from the world. Although that seems very broad, we can narrow it down into very simple sentences.
God calls us to be different than the world. If the world is doing it, we shouldn’t be. So many things are acceptable by society that we know isn’t okay with God and his word. We have to personally allow those truths to be true in our lives. Although popularity leaves a temporary feeling of acceptance, and it can make us feel wanted and included, there is so much more found in the God who created you. When you begin to feel unwanted or unaccepted remember these promises:
Ephesians 1:11 Furthermore, because we are united with Christ, we have received an inheritance from God, for he chose us in advance, and he makes everything work out according to his plan.
Don't get stuck in Comparison
This may be a familiar topic to you. I’ve struggled so much with comparison throughout my college experience. Comparing yourself to others will lead you down a road of emptiness, loneliness, and self-pity. Do NOT travel down this road. In a recent bible study, I’ve went through called Uninvited by Lysa TerKaurst, she wrote something that has brought great promise into my life. She mentions in her book the phrase “Her success (other girls) doesn’t threaten mine”. WOW that hit me like a ton of bricks, still does. Since when has God’s grace been limited to a few people? NEVER. God has planted purpose in every heart, and of course your purpose is going to be different than the girl you idolize on Instagram. The reality of it all is that God designed us uniquely in order for us to fulfill a specific purpose according to his plan.
So in your season of worrying that you won’t be as successful as the next girl, be reminded that God hasn’t forgotten you, he has something very specific planned for you. Be joyful that you serve a God whose timing is perfect!! Stop looking around for the approval of everyone else, instead find peace & rest that God loves you for WHO you are not WHAT you are.
Galatians 1:10 For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.
Remember Who you are & Who you represent
The title of this tip was a piece of advice my uncle gave me in junior high. It has become a phrase that reminds me that I have a responsibility to represent Jesus EVERYWHERE I go. I have failed at that task many times, and maybe you have too. You may think your reputation is already too far gone to be redeemed. But friend let me remind you, nothing is too broken than Jesus can’t fix. And not only will he fix it, he will make something beautiful out of your mess!!
As women of God we have a responsibility, a REALLY big one!! We are the “Light of the World”, the “Salt of the Earth”, and sometimes your witness might be the only piece of Jesus someone ever encounters! I know, seems like a lot to take in. However, we each have been gifted with specific talents to use them to share the message & love of God.
When giving advice to girls just about to make that leap into college I always remind them that going to college is almost like a “reset”. You’re usually in a new town, with new opportunities, and new faces. This is the moment you really get to decide who you want to be away from your parents, your hometown friends, your church etc. This life step I believe really shows the character of an individual and proves how strong their relationship with Jesus is. If you are someone who is heading to college to jump into this generations popularity contest, you are going to be easily persuaded to do whatever it takes to “fit-in”. Or maybe you’ve found yourself already in college becoming someone you don’t like, that isn’t reflecting Christ. Don’t let the mistakes of your past, hold back from the mission God has for you right now!
KNOW your worth is found in Christ alone.
REMEMBER who you are representing as an ambassador for Christ
KEEP his word close to your soul & mind
NEVER forget you are chosen, wanted, & called by the creator of the world!