Moving Through the Desperate In-Between

Rejection is something that all of us have gone through. Whether that’s in a relationship, friendship, school, a job or an opportunity. Replace rejection with “Facing the Unknown”. A lot of us are struggling with not knowing what tomorrow brings. Or what the next school year, work life, the relationships in our lives will look like. We are desperate in between. If we place our hope and future in the hands of our unchanging, unflinching God who never leaves us or forsakes us, we'll find healing and freedom. So instead of running from the pain of rejection or facing the unknown or FILL IN THE BLANK. We must embrace it head on. If we never allow ourselves to feel it, we won’t acknowledge it’s there.


Note (*This is based off a chapter from Uninvited By Lysa Terkaurst with extra notes from me)


Remember: Pain isn’t the enemy. Pain is the indicator that brokenness exists. Pin is the reminder that the real enemy is trying to take us out or bring us down by keeping us stuck in our brokenness. But as daughters of God, that is not who we are. We are better, we are stronger, even when we don’t feel like it.


Pain is the invitation for God to move in and replace our faltering strength with HIS. We must invite God into our pain to help us survive the desperate in-between.


The only other choice is to run from pain. I have done this, I’m sure you have to. If we think that we can just keep forgetting about what we are going through maybe it will just disappear, right? Some people use a method of numbing. Some make sure they are never alone, constantly surrounded with people or engulfed in social media or group chats. Others work non-stop and try to hide their pain by reaching success. Others sometimes turn to using pills, alcohol or sex. Some might even be obsessing over controlling everything and everyone in their environment.


Question: What are you using to numb your pain?



Personally for me, I have struggled with the insecurity of not being accepted by people. I tend to try to fit in with whatever group I am in so I feel some type of acceptance when really I’m just numbing my need to LOVE myself. Because Jesus loves me wholly, I can love myself without needing others to love me. Is it it okay to have great friendships? YES! Find great friends. But it becomes unhealthy for you when the only way you find joy is when you are with your friends or boyfriend. That joy will be based on that person lol. Have a joy based in God, it never goes away.



Numbing the pain never cures the source of the real issue, it only silences our desperate cry for help.


If we avoid the hurt, the hurt creates a void in us. It slowly kills the potential for our hearts to fully feel, fully connect, fully love again.


It even steals the best in our relationship with God. Because instead of him being our hope, we misplace our hope in people who can’t wholly love a desperately broken version of us. Only God can do that.



Pain is the sensation that indicates a transformation is needed. Something needs to change in your heart and in your mind. You have to choose, sometimes daily to pursue long term strength, instead of temporary relief.


So how do we invite God into this desperate in-between on broken and not yet healed?


We invite his closeness.


Praying always helps. In this book, Uninvited, Lysa says she reads Psalm 91 as a prayer in times she feels stuck in a heart break, or facing the unknown.


My Refuge and My Fortress

1 Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. 2 I will say of the LORD, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.” 3 Surely he will save you from the fowler’s snare and from the deadly pestilence. 4 He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart. 5 You will not fear the terror of night, nor the arrow that flies by day, 6 nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness, nor the plague that destroys at midday. 7 A thousand may fall at your side, ten thousand at your right hand, but it will not come near you. 8 You will only observe with your eyes and see the punishment of the wicked. 9 If you say, “The LORD is my refuge,” and you make the Most High your dwelling, 10 no harm will overtake you, no disaster will come near your tent. 11 For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways; 12 they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone. 13 You will tread on the lion and the cobra; you will trample the great lion and the serpent. 14 “Because he loves me,” says the LORD, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name. 15 He will call on me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him. 16 With long life I will satisfy him and show him my salvation.”


I pray that this gives comfort today. I know we are all going through something. Whether big or small. With ourselves, our friends, or our relationships. God is the one who gives comfort and he will be the one to guide you during the troubled, heartbroken times in your life.




Questions to reflect on


  1. What do you turn to when things get hard?

  2. Are you running from the pain in your life?

  3. If yes, then how can you instead face it and give it to the Lord?

  4. How has your relationship with Jesus been doing?



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With love,


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